How to deal with militant atheist while being an atheist?

[Jessica A]

Okay so I am a huge social media freak. Not going into why but it basically has to do with the fact that I'm opinionated, no where near my family and friends at the moment (so I use it to keep in touch), a musician who records a lot on youtube and just someone who has a general interest in what's going on in other worlds, places, and peoples minds. I'm a very open and understanding person who really believes that everyone has their own road (not that it's predestined or anything) but that our personal experiences shape us and make us who were are and contribute to what we ultimately believe and how we act. So even though my life has led me to be an agnostic atheist (I don't believe in god, but eh I could be wrong) I still love everyone and respect their beliefs as long as they practice peacfully and don't use it as a mode of harm or shove it on people and allow others to chose to find out for themselves the same.
So ironically I spend a lot of time sticking up for religious people who are just getting bashed and named called for practicing and believing what they do. (From Buddhists, to wiccans, all the way to Catholics and agnostic theist) Mind you these aren't people who are shaming atheists (because then I find myself on the other side of the fence defending them as well) these are the militant atheist who just go on rampages to people who post something on their personal page about thanking God or Allah or something
While I'm an atheist I'm just as fed up with the cruelty, shaming, and name calling I see on our side as I do with a lot of fundamentalist Christians. How do you, as atheist who do not consider yourself militant but kind and open minded, deal with the bad stigma that other atheist create.
Obviously I know rudeness and militance isn't assigned to a whole group but instead it's the person who chooses to act in such a way.
Thanks for any answers, and everyone be well!
militant atheist to me is someone who pushes their ideas on someone who just doesn't ask for it. I think religion or lack there of shouldn't be shoved on anyone who doesn't willingly ask for the discussion and if they do ask for the discussion you shouldn't use shame tactics and attack the person instead of point out logical evidence and points.
So to me I very much dislike religious people who will just jump on an atheist persons back for no reason, totally unprovoked or welcomed and say shit like you're going to hell. you're an abomination. etc etc
That's not okay with me

It's not okay with me when atheist call religious people stupid, idiotic, basically name calling because I have met tons of intelligent religious people, my dad for instance who has multiple phds in science and I've seen him post a FB message about thanking God only for his extremely atheist friend to comment on it telling him he was a moron and a whole bunch of other things. And
to be associated with someone who shares a similar title with me made me feel horible. Very much like some lgbt friendly Christians probably feel towards the homophobic sects.