ex text me about 12 year old daughters dirty text messages?

[Heather J]

I think if it were my daughter I would want to know who she is talking to in this way.

Now, it could well be a boy at school in which case the problem isn't huge. Children are curious at this age and although you are mortified at the kind of language being used (and the implication of it) it pretty common. I teach 11 year olds and have overheard some rather shocking conversations in my time.

If it is a school mate/peer then tell her you don't want to embarrass her further but she must think about what is 'appropriate' to talk about. Also, she must realise sending photos of herself in any state of undress is a no no.

On the other hand, what if this is someone she has made contact with via the net? Paedophiles are no more common than they were 50 years ago BUT they do have access to so many more ways to contact children it is scary. Ask her how she knows this person (not who it is as she will clam up more) and if it is a 'stranger' then definitely contact the police.

It sounds to me that she is thoroughtly mortified by the whole thing bthe more she will clam up so rather than an interrogation you are going to have to weedle it out of her.

Finally, confiscate the phone at bedtime, make sure the computer is where you can see it and limit the time she uses these social networks.