ex text me about 12 year old daughters dirty text messages?

[Erin L]

She's 12, and she's shown you she can't handle the privilge of a cell phone. I would have a serious talk about how what she's doing is dangerous and she will get herself into serious trouble she is NOT ready for. Take away her cell phone privileges, and she will have to earn them back slowly. Start out with allowing her a cell phone when she's out somewhere specific and will need to call to be picked up from a practice or something. Then move to allowing the cell phone during the day, but you have it at night and charge it. You will also be checking her phone for awhile. She's only 12 and she's shown she needs that kind of monitoring. I wouldn't let her have it at night for a long time, but I wouldn't let my 12 year old have one at night anyway. I understand you think that she'll rebel if you're overprotective, and to some degree I agree, but with big safety issues you draw the line. It's not like you are looking throough her diary. Presumably, you're paying for her phone and going to see the phone records anyway, right? She's breached your trust with the phone and the logical consequences to that is less freedom with the phone.

ETA: Does your daughter know the person texting her? If you don't know who it could be and it could be an older person (a pedophile), give the number to the police. I think if she knows, and will admit to knowing, who it is and it's a boy about her age, I would tell that person if it happens again, you'll call the police.