Unsure of my future with my significant other?

[Barbara B]

Neither of you are ready for a long term (marriage) relationship. That's pretty blunt, but it's the truth. Neither of you are ready.

How can I tell? Well, his obsession with social media shows he's obsessed with himself - who is trying to contact MEEEEEE!!!!! Moreover, his slovenliness and poor hygiene is another key point. That indicates depression - as well as self-centeredness. Both of these show that this guy is simply not ready for the realities of a LTR.

You admit to being neurotic and emotional instability. Just those issues alone are enought for me to say you aren't ready for the stress of a LTR.

If I were you I'd put the breaks on this distance nonsense pronto. That doesn't mean you can't have a relationship - but put this guy on "friend" status. He can be your cherished friend or your FWB or something - but not your "intended."

Then work on yourself. The whole neurosis and instability stuff needs to be managed and really taken care of - BEFORE you dare to enter into a relationshp that has even a ghost of a chance of making it. Once your own life is settled then and only then will you be able to have a truly happy, stable and loving relationship.