Just found out my husband cheated on me...Please help!!!?

[Matthew]

woman up get a backbone,fu--- him,tell him to go live with his mistress and be done with him.why should u care when he didn't care about u when he f---ing around.afraid of the real world,for goodness sake,u don't have a life with him so what do u have to lose at this point.lease u want hae to worry about being miserable or catching hiv,std's.Ok. Here is the bluntest answer possible. First, he doesnt see you more than anything more thaan to use for sex. If you have been sexually involved with a man for that long and he hasnt made a commitment to you in ALL that amount of time then he sees you for what you are. sex.thats all. the end.period. Letting him know that he is the only one he is hitting it makes him feel that you are his and belong to him. for sex.nothing else. period. WHEN SOMEONE WANTS TO BE WITH YOU THEY WANT TO BE WITH YOU. He clearly DOESNT want to have a relationship with you beyond sex.period.the end. life is too short.You need to get some respect for yourself and LET HIM GO. He has NO respect for you and by you staying around him , you are and have lost respect for yourself. He wants to have his cake, frosting, etc and eat it too. You need to leave him ASAP. He keeps on messing with you because you ALLOW for him to treat you and talk to you that way. WHAT YOU ALLOW SOMEONE TO DO TO YOU OR TREAT YOU, THEY WILL TREAT OR DO TO YOU. You are losing sooooooo much respect for yourself by continuing to allow for him to treat you that way. There isnt much to think about here. Men say what they mean. They dont analyze situations like females do. He already told you so now you have to be the one to change the situation. You have just been on this rollercoaster ride for toooo long girl. He won't commit to you, he's made that clear. In the end, you are going to get hurt because you have feelings for him. Stop fooling around with him, and move on. You deserve better. It's very simple. He's doing it because you are letting him do it and get away with it. Every time he comes over and you don't deny him, you are saying "It's okay to use me and then leave." So don't expect this to change until you take control of things and say that you won't let this happen to you anymore.
Friends with benefits only benefits one person. The girl is always fooled into thinking she is getting something too, but you are only left empty and used. Don't stoop to being desperate, don't be a 2 cents type of person. He sounds like he doesn't love you. There are men who ARE faithful, but it's hard to find them. Ditch this loser and move on.Why does he do this? Because you let him. Close the legs. And tell him no thanks. don't call the girl,its not her fault,he is the one that committed to u not her,she's just a side kick too just like u,victims