I want a baby and I am definitely too young, help?

[Ray]

The serious emotional issue you face is due to what I have termed Cultural Compression. Cultural Compression is all about early teens such as yourself comparing life with adults and wondering, as you clearly indicate, about things that are not exactly appropriate for them.You complain of no male attention. Why, may I ask, is male attention so important to you at your age? Look at girls 18. Some of them have the same issues. Look at women aged 25 or older. They have the same issues. The difference, is my dear, is both emotional and psychological maturity. You are barely into puberty and due to social media, the filtering down of pressures from what should be happening in later years, etc. your face emotions you are not ready to handle. Therefore, the despair and anger and frustration you complain about. Further into consideration is this. What is a baby going to do for you except have a 100% totally dependent life on your hands to care for? That would make you basically a shut in. What about expenses? Babies cost about $14,000 plus US dollars for the first year. What you need is to focus on school work, academics, hobbies, family and other fun teen activities. As to what you are experiencing it is almost genetically coded to continue to human species since about 2 million years ago. OK? Just calm down, do not concern yourself as to boys and sex and being "alone." This is rather normal in your age. You have a sister that went through this error of sex, lack of knowledge as to birth control, the trauma of an abortion and whatever other problems she experienced. Why not learn from that? You have a lifetime to deal with grownup issues. At fourteen you are not even close to being a person able to handle these romantic notions, feelings, etc. The teen mums you see are idealized since you have no clue as to the details, the pain, the expense and the hardships associated with having kids. Good luck.