HAVING A HARD TIME WITH MY BOYFRIEND BEING FRIENDS WITH HIS EX?

[Matt]

I don't think you're being unreasonable. The fact is that his ex is not an ex, she's an almost-ex and it sounds like she's trying to work her way back into the picture. At the very least, neither of them are giving you much respect.

I suspect that the fact that your bf is unemployed at present might be generating some self-esteem issues and loneliness that the ex is happily exploiting.

But the most disturbing aspect of your story is how he doesn't seem to care about your feelings and is taking you for granted.

I doubt that talking matters through with him will have a lasting impact but I think if you introduced a bit of real (or imaginary) male competition it would be interesting. Perhaps you could tell him one night that you're going out with a male co-worker for drinks?