How do i get us back to the way things were?

[Jill B]

I agree with the points William B made. Trust can be hard to earn in a relationship once it's been broken or tested, but it's very possible, and it makes the process better IF you're BOTH on the same page and can commit to making it work. You do this by being completely open and honest with each other about how you both feel and then reaching a resolution together.

Tell her that you love her and that you are sorry for hurting her feelings. It wasn't your intention, but you acknowledge that she feels threatened, and you're willing to do what it takes to have her trust again. Remind her that it needs to be a team effort, meaning that you're both going to have to come to some sort of compromise and follow through on your word.

If she doesn't want to work on herself and then continues to give you a hard time instead of effort or positive reinforcement, then I agree that it might be time to re-consider your relationship with her. There may be issues that she needs to figure out on her own. All you can do is try Good luck!