Does he have a crush on me?

[Tony]

EDIT: TWO POINTS FOR ANTHONY. Just how he knows this is anyone's guess.

It's possible he's interested in you as a girlfriend. But if he HAS one now then you don't want him to be unfaithful to her. If he did he'd be unfaithful to you too.

Now: As I remember a very very long time ago in a land far away (from where I am now) I knew this girl named Christina. She wasn't the most popular girl and she wasn't the most attractive either. Seemed she spent a lot of time alone. Then she learned about sex. All of a sudden she became very popular with all the guys. She thought it was great.

She and I never got together. I liked her. Liked her a lot because she was so natural as a person. Nothing false about her. But I wasn't interested in dating her. I didn't date girls from school. I had other priorities - education.

She was hurt that I showed that I cared about her and I often spoke with her about different things. The thing that is pertinent here is that she didn't know how I felt about her - just as you don't know how this guy feels about you. I told her that I cherished our friendship - and that was all it was.

So when she started becoming popular among boys I ended my friendship with her. Though THIS has nothing to do with your question, the point I'm making is that this guy may just like you because you're likable. There could be nothing more to it.

What should you do? Stay in his life. Don't push any issues like "Tell me if you like me" or something like that. All you might do is push him away. I had friends that didn't like hearing girls tell them they were in love with them. Bruce comes to mind with that. He had commitment issues for reasons that are HIS to divulge if he so chooses. But your friend, keep him at the very least as a friend. If there's more to it then it's up to him to let you know. Until then don't let yourself feel heart broken if you don't get the result you want.

Remember, a friend for life is a TRUE friend. Chris and I are no longer friends. She ended up pregnant in high school (as does happen) and I lost all respect for her because of her "Popularity" contest.

I'm married 39 years now, raised five daughters. And this is something we've talked about (my girls and I). They understand the importance of friends. And the importance of having a friend in marriage. They know this because my wife and I are friends. We like each other. Which I've seen plenty of people in love with others they couldn't stand. Even hated.

These are things you will learn in time. And as a mother you will be able to impart these lessons to your own children. Doesn't matter if they're boys or girls, the lesson is always the same: Cherish friendship.

Hope this helps.

'')