how should i deal with him?

[James W.]

Get off of Facebook (it's a waste of time and it contains so much negativity - which you don't need) and forget about this guy (ignore him, act like he doesn't exist). The goal is for you to become so strong that you don't care what weak people say, do, or think. Remember that you are treasure immeasurable value in God's eyes - regardless of what anyone else says, does, or thinks.

May I suggest that the first question to ask yourself when considering whether or not to date someone is, “Is this person a strong person?” If they’re not, no matter how much you like them, how much they like you, or how “cute” or “hot” they are, - please don’t date them. A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), puts forth their best effort, and displays self-control (of their body, anger, tongue and money).

My suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already) and eventually look for this type of guy (otherwise you are setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of man is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.

(Please remember that you eventually want a 50 or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)

Hope this helps!

PS It sounds like you might need some professional counseling to help you through this. It's often available for little or no fee through health insurance - and most colleges offer free counseling to students. Almost everyone needs counseling at some point in their lives.