Parents Invading Privacy?

[angeloneus]

Your parents are responsible for your safety until you turn 18. If you get into any trouble, they can be held accountable and even go to jail, depending on your offense. They have the right to know who you talk to, where you go, and find out who you hang out with because all those things and people influence your behavior. Here is what I would suggest you do. Calmly, without histronics.
1. Ask to have a meeting to discuss privacy and trust issues with you.
2. Make a list of things you would like to happen. Ask them what THEY would like to happen and write down everything they say as well.
3. Tell them that you know they love you and are trying to protect you, and that is why they try to keep you so close.
4.Negotiate. Give them something they want so you can get something you want. Add them as friends to facebook and myspace, freely give them the phone to look at your textmessages. What do you have to hide? It will bore them to tears to read your posts, trust me! Confide in them about things you worry about with your friends, about guys. If you talk to them about what you are experiencing and feeling, they will feel safer and feel less that they have to pry to find out how you are doing,and they will naturally back off because you are being more open.
5. Tell them that since you are in high school now and keeping up your grades, that you would like some adult privacy. For instance, they should knock before going into your room. You would like a later curfew, in return you will call them and let them know where you are and if you are going somewhere else. Tell them that you will gladly submit to drug and alcohol testing anytime they see fit if that is what they need to know you are not doing drugs or booze, but to please refrain from the room searches. To get something you want, you have to give them something they want. This is a mature way to handle your predicament. You won't get everything you want and you will have to give, but it will be better than it was before!