my best friend( or used to be) think i'm fake!!!!help!!!!?

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Here's the thing about joking to the degree to where you use very cruel terms like slut, whore, or even racist remarks. When you joke like that, you're really risking a relationship with that person. Even if you did not mean to call his mother a slut, that word still registered to his mother in his head. There are just some things you just don't say or joke about. Plus he probably did not tell you the whole story about the time she was pregnant. Maybe she had a REALLY difficult time, maybe she was mean to him as a child due to stress, maybe he found out he was almost aborted, which could really be painful to know. I mean you just don't know, and then on top of that you, you say 'slut alert'. Again, I know you did not mean it, but not everyone (not even your closets friends) react in the way that you hoped they would. Certain jokes mean certain things to certain people. That was probably the reason why he wasn't speaking to you. But my question is, why didn't you apologize?

About the Facebook status thing, I agree that that was not the way get back at you. If he knew your clone profile was very private to you, he should have respected that. I think at this point, he's looking to hurt you more than he is being respectful to you. If any time a person has a problem with their friends, it does not take rocket science to know that you should communicate and talk this out immediately. he hasn't done that.

I have two possible options here for you.

1) Leave it alone. If you be the bigger person and just be silent about it, hopefully, that will end this little tug of war. And he might feel guilty because he's expecting a reaction out of you, but if you don't show it, you might surprise him.

2) You can respond to him and say something like
"I'm very sorry if I offended you. I don't know your mother and would never dream of hurting you or her. But it was a joke. We joke all the time and I assumed you wouldn't take it seriously. But I understand if jokes can go too far. However, what you did by exposing my profile that you knew was very private to me was totally not the way to resolve a problem you had with me. Why couldn't you talk to me about what was on your mind? I can't guess how you feel. Considering how things have been between us, maybe it's for the best if we just part ways if we can't get along. After all, we do always fight, and that's not good in any relationship."

Try this.