Calming methods on horseback?

[Silver Wasp]

I would suggest the best thing for you, your health and your horse at this point id for you to call in a trainer who will properly train your horse to do what you are struggling to do. Clearly your horse does not understand what you are trying to make him do- are you sure you are giving the right signals? Are you experienced enough to be training a horse? Do you have someone (a riding instructor) who can help you?

When you do get frustrated when he does not do what you want him to do, stop training and go for a trail ride. Along the way get him to walk, trot, canter, drop down through the gaits, halt, and walk on again. Do something that you know your horse can do, and always end your ride on a good note. Training a horse well takes a lot of time and patience, and won't happen instantly.

Think of a child learning to walk- that takes time, and can you imagine how you would feel if your mother had reprimanded you for failing to walk within a training session? Horses are like children- it takes time to learn something new.