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ladies i need your input. what should i do? :/?
05-02-2014, 10:49 PM
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Okay, I have been in a very similar (its almost creepy actually) situation as you. I had (and still do) a huge crush on a friend of mine who is also lesbian. I loved her more than words could express and I wanted nothing more than to be responsible for her happiness, as I still do today. I've loved her more almost 10 months now, and in the beginning when we first became close, she sent me signals that would suggest she liked me too...very similar to the one's you are receiving. However, she had a girlfriend and that hurt more than anything.
And so, me being the idiot that I was and still am, I kept my mouth shut and never told her about my feelings. Months passed and it only became harder to keep my feelings in. it got so bad that I couldn't hold it in any longer and I confessed my love for her despite her having a new girlfriend. (yes, she broke up with her other one and I still doubted she liked me at all and so I said nothing...and then she started dating another girl a few months later, which again broke my heart again)
what hurt the most was what she told me after that. she said she liked me too, but because I never said anything, she assumed I didn't like her and therefore stayed with her gf. she said "I just wish you said something earlier because I would be dating you right now not (insert gf's name)." and so that was it. I blew my chance, when I had the green light all along.
I lost my chance, but you haven't lost yours. tell her your feelings, for yourself, and for me. its too late for me, I already waited too long, but it's not for you. please take this advice, I wouldn't wish the pain I feel today on my worst enemy. it's regret, anger, self hatred, and a whole lot of sadness. don't do this to yourself honey, take your shot at happiness and run with it.
don't be afraid, embrace the adventure and go for it. you have to want it more than you are afraid of the consequences. I only wish I knew that sooner. The fact that she has a boyfriend is barely relevant at all, as proven in my own experience, because people are prepared to take risks for love. by the sounds of it this girl is interested in you, and you shouldn't pass this opportunity up if it is what will make you happy.

Take that jump, I know you can do it. Good luck and be brave, I wish you all the best in the future. God bless xoxo
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[] - Isabel - 05-02-2014, 10:20 PM
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