To add or not to add? FB etiquette advice needed!?

[Leon Phelps]

Tough question. I'm not super-savvy with FB, but I think you can find him on there and send him a personal message. Perhaps you could do that?

I'm a big fan of being direct... and I think you can reach out and ask him if he would be OK with it in a way that doesn't make him feel "cornered." The fact that you said you have no intention of mentioning what happened seems sincere to me, and I'd guess that would be his biggest concern. If you disarm that, maybe he would feel happy and relieved too?

Or, you could just send him a low-key "hope you are having fun in Europe" personal message and see how he responds. He might add you as a friend without you even asking.

One thing: How was he after your goodbye? Did he seem uncomfortable, guilty, agitated, upset? That might give you a clue as to how receptive he will be.

Good luck!