Is everyone out to be fb? Or ff? I don't get it.. Please answer nice.?

[Kelly773]

I'm newer to the re-dating scene if you will. With 2 divorces behind me. In 1 1/2 yrs. dating where I have to live for now, not that it is probably different anywhere else, I have had a total of 6 dates. 5 from the internet, one a guy I used to work at the same place, different shifts. I've got my standards, and one is that I don't want a man just to be in my pants. Granted, sex is nice. But why does everyone, guys and girls too, seem to want that and only that? What's the deal? I live in the bible belt of East Texas. (ONE of my problems, I know) but even talking to these guys and blatantly saying "I AM NOT A FB OR FF". They come off all nice and seem to think on the date that I didn't mean what I said. Discussed this in depth with my 6th date last Friday. (I know, 13th...don't get me started). It was an afternoon movie (I paid my own way because he was "late") yea, right. Anyway, afterwards he wanted to go rent a room by the hour......UGH!!!!!~! Any nice guys left? HELP!
Ok, I do have experience in dating. Hence the 2 divorces. I'm not stupid nor lack intelligence. WHERE do you go to meet these "nice" guys? Don't tell me church, as I've heard the horror stories there. I need some practical, tried advice. And for those that don't understand the fb or ff, I didn't either until my first date....f***buddies or f***friends. You do the math and I'm glad to have educated you at my expense. This is terrible! I can't believe all dating has come to this when or maybe not when, you are on the older side. I'm sure the younger people face it and I'm not THAT old, but still, don't I deserve a fighting chance? I have a lot to give and I don't mean just in the bedroom. I am really frustrated as to what to do. Where to go...Everyone says there's a "Mr. Right" out there. Well, I would just like to meet a Mr. Nice. Maybe friends...then who knows? It's rought in these trenches!~!!!
See? That's what I am talking about. Everyone says, "hey, hang in there, he's out there somewhere...etc.".

And to my first answer person, how can you know what I'm talking about if you don't know what fb and ff means? Just because you live in southeast Texas doesn't mean you understand the question.
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