Are me and my girlfriend going to break up eventually?

[samiamrd]

First are you and your girlfriend going to break up. Yes, eventually. Not because of drinking, smoking or partying, but because you two need to grow up. And that is the only problem that you will have to deal with. You both will grow and change especially in college. Often that growth shows you who you want to be and at the end of that personal growth, each of you will ask wether this is the direction that you want to go in your life. Sometimes you grow together because you have a better understanding of your future, and sometimes you grow apart. In any event you will come to realize who you want in your life, and how your going to live your life with timelines about family, friends, and jobs.

So what should you do? I assume that she might be a year older or is going to a different college. The first thing that you need to do is to encourage and support her going to college, whereever she wants. support her in her dreams for her future life and the career that she wants to persue. Will she do that career, most likely no, but you need to support that anyway. There is a good chance that she will change her career aspirations once she goes to college, but you need to support her in whatever decision she makes. Always-always be positive and supporting. She needs to learn and grow and that is what college is about. What you need to be is her loyal friend who always supported her. You are her one true love and she will evenually realize that, but you must be positive about her and whatever she wants to do. If you two are to have a future, you both need to realize that neither of you held each other back in life. If you want your future children to avoid the poverty trap, you need to make sure of three things, She needs to go to college and finish with a degree, she needs to get a full time job, and she needs to be married before she had a child. As for you, you need to do those things as well. You need to go to college, learn and grow as a person through the experience. You also need to get a degree in something. A degree in something demonstrates to all future employers that you are trainable, it is the magic key to future jobs. Also you need to grow into who you will become and you need a wide view of the world to do that. College is where you get that. It does not matter if your a year or two behind your girlfriend. Those few years do not matter as long as your timelines match up on the other side of college.

Should you get ready for a breakup. Yes and no. There is always the possibility that you will break up, so from that aspect, you always need to be ready, however, they always come at the worst time. So don't plan for a breakup, but if one comes, dont get mad, just say that "you understand and that you love her." She may evenually find out that you were the best person for her. However, don't provoke a breakup, unless if that is what you want. Just live today and enjoy the relationship as it is. No one knows what the future will bring, so you need to live in this relationship as if it is the best thing ever. Just enjoy this time, because there will never be another like this one. You will always remember your first serious relationship.