MEN: Are you actually intimidated by tall, pretty women?

[Barolb]

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"Only had two boyfriends"? I would like to note that while attention can be both good and bad things, the idea of having a partner as a mantel is kind of stupid. Only having 2 is much more than many people get in their lives. Some people, like myself, have never had a girlfriend before (or in other girls' cases a boyfriend). While there is nothing wrong with being shallow on some things, i am mostly against the idea of being around shallow girls as those were the kind of girls i was surrounded by in high school. The fake smiles, the tone in their voice that was completely unnatural and the horrible pretending to be nice... Thankfully i have not encountered this nearly as much in university.

As for the matter at hand, while i do think you come off as being a bit shallow in your first paragraph, being lonely is understandable. Everyone encounters this at some point, and as to how you fill this void is up to you. You can hang around with friends more or something, but i suppose this isn't what you're looking for so i'll give my take.

Yes, i would be slightly intimidated by taller women than myself. I am exactly 6ft tall, so not often will i see girls who are taller than me, especially because of the people i hang around. I'm pretty sure this intimidation is due to being around girls who were always shorter than me. However, girls who are just as tall as me i would be fine with. Out of my group of friends i'm not the tallest, but maybe in the middle to near (3/4 ways) tallest in terms of height.

This brings me to what I can say about you based off of several facts that really don't tell anyone anything about you. First off, and the most obvious being, you are an attractive girl. I believe that is well spoken for at this point, and not just from your emphasis on personal experiences (mainly because i'm fairly certain other guys will agree with me on this: You are indeed attractive). Secondly, you do brag a bit. When something good happens you like to show or talk about it with others, which is not a bad thing. Thirdly, you develop low confidence in some aspects of life, but have high confidence and aspirations in others which you excel at. And lastly, you're eager and you feel the need to keep up with your appearance. This includes social standing as well.

I cannot state that you are a "very nice" person; I never once spoken to you before, so how can i say that for certain. Are you intelligent? I once thought grades truly showcased that a person was intelligent, but i've begun to see otherwise. People excel at different things, and grades aren't always a proper indicator of one's intelligence or knowledge. Rather, grades are a proper indicator of how much you care about an object of interest or how much you would push forward to reach a goal. I don't know if you're shy or not, as that is quite clearly not what this post implies. You posted a question about yourself and a small video included, to the Internet, to reaffirm your confidence because you feel like things aren't going as how you would expect them to. I can also tell from this post that you feel negative and slightly bitter about yourself as a result of disinterest in guys towards you.

Some of the things you have noted in your post can be observed in your writing. That is clearly what i did above. Nobody can say or write so clearly why you and other guys can't connect. There could be many different variables not accounted for (eg. group of friends, classes taken together, if a guy wants to have a gilrfriend, etc). You stated you're studying to be a physician's assistant, correct? What if there are guys in your class whose main focus IS to become a physician or have some sort of career in that particular field? I know of such people who do not want to get into a relationship right now. They want to focus on finishing school.

As for that guy who spoke to your friend: Sometimes it's awkward when a guy talks to a friend of the girl he likes. Sometimes some guys completely turn off on speaking to them when they talk to someone who is closer to them. They aren't sure what to say or do. I can speak from experience on this especially. This even happens to me when i talk to anyone. Trying to still incorporate them into the conversation can be difficult though, and the best i have done thus far is to just look at them, other friends and switch back and forth while speaking.


I could suggest as many things as i possibly can to try and better your situation, but who says it will help with generalized, predetermined, variables? Situations are handled differently by different people. The advice provided to you may or may not work and as someone is is an Internet dweller cannot possibly know your situation. You, your friends and family know your situation better than someone such as i or anyone else does. I'm sure there are people who care about you who would be willing to lend a proper hand. This is as much as i can do.


Good luck on getting around the hurdle and i hope this answers your question,
~Barolb