Married but very lonely, any support groups for this that aren't about hooking up?

[Phil B]

I'm a 33 year old male, I married my wife 4 years ago and things have slowly went down hill and we've grown apart. She suffers from depression and bipolar disorder among other things and would just rather stay in the bedroom for the majority of each day, every day. She misses family holiday events and seems disinterested in pretty much everything.

I do what I can to cheer her up and be there for her. I go in often to check on her, I take care of our son most of the time on top of working 50 hours a week. I do the majority of the house work and what not and most days, I don't mind. I know depression is hard, I know a chemical imbalance isn't anyone fault and I don't fault her for it at all. I try to be as understanding as possible....

But I'm really lonely. We have sex once a month if we're lucky. She says she has no sex drive but I know she watches pornography so it stinks knowing she has some drive but she's just not interested in me maybe, I dunno. Anyway sex isn't even about getting off to me, I just miss sharing that bond with her. We do things sometimes and when we do, she seems to have fun. She tells me nothing is wrong and to her the way she acts is totally normal, she doesn't see how much shes slid backwards into the world of being totally anti social. Her parents have talked about it and they don't understand it either.

Anyways, I'm pretty lonely. I work hard and when I'm not working I'm raising our son and maintaining our home. I love my wife and am not looking for anything that would break the sanctity of our marriage but I am looking to reach out to like minded people or those in similar situations, sort of like a support group in a way.

Are there any places online that offer such things? After searching online I couldn't find anything that wasn't something along the lines of adult friend finder. I just want someone to talk to, someone who maybe understands and someone whom can be there for me and me be there for them to help them though those rough times as some times are worse then others.

Anyways, I've prattled on long enough. Thanks for taking the time to read.
I've brought up to her perhaps seeking help other then medications, such as seeking counseling. I asked if she wanted to go together or maybe just by herself, whatever she thought may be more comfortable or beneficial to her but she gets angry anytime it gets brought up or talked about for any extended period of time.

She's been though a lot in her life, everything from abuse to being used by people, shes struggled with alcoholism (she was sober for 2 years but within the last few months has had a few drinks, nothing serious though...but I worry.) I want to be there for her and her family has tried to be as well but she pushes everyone away. It's very sad because I don't want her relationship with our 3 year old son to suffer, which it's showing early sings of. (he wont do much of anything for her and will for those of us that are active in his every day life.)

I wasn't on here to sing my own praises, God knows I'm not a perfect individual. I went into
Again, I've tried fixing it internally for a long time now, it's now time I look to other avenues to try and figure things out. You can only drive down a dead end street so many times because you turn around and find an alternative route to get to your desired destination. Which for me is both helping her as well as myself and our family as a whole. Right now though I'm so worn down I need to help myself at this point before I can be of any help to her.