BF is splitting up with me over FB message how can I get him back please help?

[ccorridon]

I agree, both of you need to grow up. Until then....respect is a big thing in a relationship. If you KNOW he doesn't want you to speak to an ex, why would you do it anyways and then defend it with "It doesn't mean anything to me." It may not but it meant A LOT to him that you chose to do it behind his back. And in his mind, if you did this behind his back, what else have you done behind his back? I'm NOT accusing you of doing anything behind his back, only putting to words what HE may be thinking.

In any relationship, you need to be open and honest and that includes what is important to you and what isn't and it needs to be said up front. If you don't have a problem being friends with a man on FB, you need to be up front with that. If he can't deal, he can leave. But be careful because if you keep choosing ex boyfriends over your boyfriend, you're going to wind up alone. I'm great friends with my ex husband (all future references to him will be just "ex") and any man whom I'm dating needs to understand that. However, if I'm in a serious relationship and it really bothers him, I will cut off contact. My ex understands that. Our platonic friendship IS unusual. What I'm saying is that for casual dating I'm not going to dump the friendship, it would have to be the kind of relationship where I could see myself marrying the man. But I WILL be up front about it.

I don't know that you can get him back because you're truly not seeing what you did wrong. It's not so much the communication with this guy in and of itself, it's doing it behind your boyfriend's back when you knew d*mn well he didn't want you to. That shows a blatant lack of respect and he's right not to go back to you if you don't get it.

If you do, you need to tell him that you are genuinely sorry for disrespecting and stop making excuses for your actions. But you also need to tell him that he has to trust you because if he doesn't, it won't work out anyways. Trust is a foundation in the relationship and without it, it won't work.

Also, I doubt it will work anyways. If this was a good, solid relationship, you wouldn't always be on and off. Time for you two to mature and figure out if the next time you're in, you're going to be in for GOOD.

God bless.