My Husband and His EX?? I think he loves her?

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I think your instincts are right on, people don't constantly talk about someone unless there is feel there. Good or bad she is on his mind and that should be a concern for you. It sounds like the son coming back into his life has stirred up old memories of what could have been but it also sounds like the son is creating some bad fibes by telling your hubby what his mom has said.

I think it's time to invite them all together for lunch at a nice restaurant and see how everyone reacts face to face because that is going to tell you if there is something to worry about or not. FYI - If anyone declines you definitely have to worry.

As for the job you need to insist that he find a different job and if he gives you resistance them you flat out tell him you believe the only reason he took that job was to be closer to her and now he needs to make a choice (he find a different job or a different wife).