Is he a controlling and emotionally abusive husband or am I just over reacting?

[Neko Girl]

He is controlling. Don't be afraid to leave. Do it for the sake of your children, if not for yourself. If they are boys, they will look up to their father, and become the way he is, and treat women the way he treats you because that is what they are use to.

I am more concerned for the children than anything. I do not think he is a bad father or that you are a bad mother, I just believe that you and your husband are in an unhealthy relationship. Would your parents send you money if you need help getting to them? As far as the children go, it is going to make it extremely hard for you to get away from him now or get a divorce.

Your situation requires strength, intelligence, and confidence. Plan your actions carefully. Make sure that you do not get caught. You're going to have to take charge of your own life and do what is best for you little boys.