Why would a soon-to-be ex-husband be so mad if he was the one who left?

[Rose]

Your husband is not coping well with the separation and just angry with himself then he put it all on you. It is more easy to point finger at others. He try to communicate or contact you maybe only because of the mortgage house that you currently life in. You need to sort that out on the divorce process otherwise he might keep bothering you...
You doing the right thing by moving on with your life. You deserve to be happy. Now it seems to be hard, but keep pray and hope. Meet and talk to your trusted friends and family of your problems. Go out and sight seeing or do whatever you compassionate about...time will heal you and one day, the right man will treat and respect you the way man treat a lady. Best wish for everything
Source : personal experience of abusive spouse