ex text me about 12 year old daughters dirty text messages?

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I don't think giving the number to the police was too etreme.
although, as you say, it could just be 'a young lad messing around', how does anyone know that? and also, imo, this goes way beyond 'messing around'.
This kind of incident shows that maybe she isn't 'entitled to her privacy'. Remove access to any social networking site and her phone. facebook, bebo, myspace. Internet eplorer comes with a built in 'site advisor'.Only allow her to be on the computer when you are monitoring her activities, and before she goes anywhere unattended, meet the parents or whoever she is going with.

Children cannot 'do anything' if you successfully remove any possibility of doing this. Make sure she's aware of the dangers of saying these things, even as a joke. Educate her and don't give her privileges back until you feel sure she has gained maturity and your trust back.

Tell the parents of this other child about what he has been texting her and allow them to discipline him. If it's an adult, don't hesitate to get the police involved. Don't back down-this might be very serious.