Reasons why I should have more privacy online?

[Angie]

Your mother is only worried about you, but at your age I do think that she has taken it a bit to far. My suggestion is that you sit down one day and have a heart to heart talk with her. During the talk use "I feel" statements (like "I feel that I have no privacy at home" or "I feel like I cannot communicate my friends in private") and DON'T use "you" statements (like "you don't give me any privacy" or "you are always reading my comments on facebook"). "I feel" statements usually lead to a better conversation while "you" statements usually lead to an argument (I'm in psychology and I often tell people to do this when they are having communication problems with others)

Tell her that you would like a little more privacy as you are growing up, but that you understand that she is just looking out for you. Let her freely see your facebook page and explain to her how you are safe about using it. For example, show her that everyone on your "friends" list is actually a friend from school or actual people that you know. Explain that you do not friend strangers. Show her the privacy settings on your page, and that you are not revealing any information (don't put your address or even birth year or cell phone as visible on facebook). Show her how careful you are. Show her your pictures and that they are not revealing anything bad. After all of this, tell her that you feel uneasy when she checks every comment you make to your friends because it seems like you cannot speak privately to them.

Understand that since you are under age, your mom had the right to keep a close eye on you, but hopefully after the conversation, she might loosen up a bit.

Oh and most importantly don't yell or raise your voice...even if she doesn't agree with you...that will only show that you are childish....and if you did yell in the previous argument, apologize and say that you want to have a discussion about the subject