What more can I do to make a mends?

[me]

why do you allow this? they go into your bedroom? your husband is not respecting you so why should his kids? have a talk with all of them and tell them, not ask, but tell them what you will no longer tolerate, and don't cave in. YOU DETERMINE HOW OTHERS TREAT YOU. and talk to each of them directly, don't be going to your husband about them, he's clearly not concerned at all about your feelings, privacy, or respect. tell him what you need and insist on those needs being met. demanding that people don't walk all over you and treat you like garbage is not too much to expect from people, EVER