Was I being unreasonable with my BF with this Facebook password situation?

[Bob]

First things first- I would NEVER share my passwords for anything with anyone- that includes girlfriends. It isn't because I am trying to hide something (I don't use Facebook, and don't have an account), nor am I trying to be sneaky. Such things are private info and should never be shared with anyone. Also, if that's the only you can feel you trust a guy you either have trust issues, or the guy does things that you find suspicious- or a mixture of the two issues. Going through his Facebook and/or his phone will never fix those issues. I have never had a girlfriend make such a demand, and I would not stay in a relationship that had that stipulation as part of it. Please don't take the above statement as an attack on you, as my thought is that you have probably ran into someone who has hurt you, and I think everyone has been through that- and it hurts.

I wouldn't see having access to his facebook as something that should make you feel special. Obviously, if he gives his password to others, in his eyes having the password to Facebook is no big deal. It may be to you, but not to him. If I were you, I would have a list of other things to decide that. Does he do special things for you? Does he take you out on a regular basis? Does he introduce you to friends? How does he treat you in front of other people? You don't have to use my list- come up with your own. There are other indications to gauge his feelings for you- and they are far more important than a password. I'd go with those instead, and let him keep his phone and passwords.