Why is he doing this (breakup questions, we live together)?

[Betty M]

You're so blind with love for him that you don't even see that he's been using you for for your money for years to support him and his musical dream. I know it's hard for you to admit that to your self, but you have to.

I hope you have kept all the receipts for the musical equipment you have paid for. Add up the total. Very calmly tell him you agree with him that the two of you need a break from each other. Since you're renting the house from your mom, he's the one who should move out. Tell him that since he owes you for all the musical equipment you paid for, then it will stay here at your house with you until he can pay you for it.

Now watch the true him come to the surface. He's going to throw a fit that you won't let him have all the musical equipment for free when he moves out. He's going to show you that he's only been using you for your money. The real reason he has been staying with you, is because it only cost him $400 a month to live with you and when he moves out, he'll have to completely support him self. That's why when he was going to move out, he changed his mind. He added up what it would cost to support him self without your pay check.

I know it's real hard to open your eyes and realize that the man you love has been financially using you for your money. It hurts and you don't want to believe it. But deep down you know it's true. Let him go, but keep the musical equipment. You can always sell it and get back some of the money you spent. Then start your new life without him, with your eyes open and learn by your mistake. Don't spend your money to buy things for some guy you're with. If he's a "real" man he won't ask you or let you do this. He'll either pay for the things he wants with his own money or do without. When you open your wallet and start buying things for a man, you attract the wrong kind of guy, who just wants to use you for your money.

Be strong and don't let this guy take advantage of you anymore. You've done way too much for him for way too long. Don't let him talk you into letting him have all that musical equipment when he moves out. That's just wrong!