DAFUQ IS MY DAD DOING???!?

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You have done the right thing in talking about this. A secret locked up inside slowly kills you.

The most important person here is YOU. Your mum knew what she was risking, and obviously your dad fully knows what he's doing.

It is very important to feel you are not alone. Email me if you like, I actually wanted my parents to split up because they were so unhappy.

Secrets eat away at relationships, it is not a tenable way of living, so I would question your decision to not talk to your parents about this. However you know what is best.

If you do talk to your parents, I would talk to your dad first. Let him know how it's affected you. And don't listen to his bullshit, just say you know and you want him to admit it to your mum.

If he does not want to stay with your mum, it is unfair on her to keep the secret. I believe in the sacredness of marriage but it may be your dad is feeling unappreciated in some way, although I find it hard to sympathise with him.

I pray that you will do the right thing, whatever that is, and never feel that you are alone - always ask for help, as you have done here. All the best