Is it normal to love, or have a crush on someone you have never talked to. Not even online.?

[Oso Impulsive]

Not love, but indeed, crush! I had a massive crush when I was 15-16 on this lad that was in my GCSE history class after our classes merged (their original teacher left) for year 11 and him and this guy sat in front of me. He wasn't a hot model or anything, but he was extremely cute and had one of those immature daft personalities and it drove me crazy. I never, ever spoke to him in person, but I found out his second name from a friend and found his MySpace (which was 'the' social network back then). It had him and his girlfriend, and though it was private, I'd just.. admire it. lol.

When I got Facebook I added him and I was surprised when he accepted, it also had his MSN addy, so I added him on MSN ("random" add). We spoke a bit on that, but after the initial convo, he didn't really speak to me much. He'd just use one-liners to talk to me ("yeah", "ok", "lol") so the convos were never meaningful. I'd speak to him every now and again, but when we were in sixth form I did confess I had a crush. He was nice about it I guess, he just said he didn't feel anything because I'd never spoken to him in person, how he has no reason to feel anything and bluntly even said he didn't care (I asked if he cared). I never spoke to him after this. I left it at that, I suppose. But during the months I crushed on him I always looked at his Facebook profile, kept "up to date" with him, and so on. Then a year later, my friend (who was in his A level Biology class) said that I came up in conversation and he told people how I used to talk to him on MSN 24/7 (exaggeration), but never in person and how I.. disgusted him.. for some reason. At this stage I was well over him, but I felt a bit pissed off about that, so I've deleted him from Facebook. He's a tw/\t and definitely not the person I thought he was.

When you don't speak to people your mind actually manufactures their personality from the little you know about them, and this is what happened me, and you're probably subconsciously doing it yourself. It's normal to crush on people this way (in fact I'd say 80% of crushes are like this), but if you want to make something of it, you *must* make the effort of speaking to them in person. Don't do the whole 'online crush' through Facebook or whatever, because people only put the best of themselves on Facebook (generally) and gives you a distorted vision of their true personality. I often ponder if I'd been a bit more confident and actually spoken to him more in person, if things might have been different, but hey, I haven't seen him in over a year and Life goes on. lol.

Sorry for the essay anyways, this has just randomly been on my mind!