Why do people think social democracy like they have in Europe is anything close to actual socialism?

[me]

Socialism or any economic system has to do with how a countries economic priorities are in the internals of its country not how it bargains with those outside it. War for profit is capitalist and wrong, but it does not determine the countries internal structure just how it handles affairs outside its borders.
Socialism is not communism. Socialism is that which stands between Capitalism and Communism. In a socialistic society people are given the means to be independent and successful. Free education from elementary too higher. Health care is consider a moral obligation. And work a means in life not the end there in. Family is priority.

Go to any YA European sites and ask them how they feel about their economic system lets see what responses you get back. How many will say they do not support socialism.