Should i go back to my wife?

[Warren]

Ok, 2 years ago my wife cheated on me. She went to a class renuion, and secretly met up with her highschool sweet heart. I caught her when she came home through emails that she was having with the guy. I confronted her about it, She told me that the only kissed in the car and held hands. I was a mess, I confronted the guy, he was apologetic and told me he that they only kissed and held hands. It took time for me to heal from this even going through some suicidal actions, and its 2 years later. I have recovered from everything, and my trust was built back up.

Until I deployed. I checked her facebook and its everyday that she checks on his profile (Wife and his profile combined). Her Iphone links up to the Icloud which we share, so Ive seen that she wrote down the number to the guys bestfriend, and then immediately deleted it off her Notes on the Icloud. I was really steaming mad in afghanistan, but I was going to confront her immediatley when i got home.,

When I returned home from my deployment, i showed her my dissappointment and confronted her about the facebook and Phone number incident. I told her I wanted to clear my mind and not be around her for a second. So i stayed in a coworkers place temporary. While she was at work, i stopped by the house to get clothes, and notice she left the computer open....and her email..I found out 2 years ago she Had sex with the guy...Now a couple of days a way is now turned into a month. I do care for her but I cant get over the lie and the sex part...she has reopen the wound...I dont know what to think or do, I want to start a new life (we have no kids), she claims shes going to commit suicide and even destroyed stuff in the house in front me when i go to talk to her. I spent 2 years of my life trying to rebuild trust on a lie..

With all the stress on leaving her she had a mini stroke, I feel guilty about what happen, but she is doing fine and recovering, she is severly depressed, but I know i cant go back for these reasons, i just dont know what to do...Please any advice is great advice