Should i go back to my wife?

[Paul]

Brother, I'm sorry this happened to you. It happened to me as well many years ago. Let me encourage you.. people are weak sometimes. Even though someone cheats it doesn't mean their love for the one they are with is diminished, it just means they have elevated someone (unjustly) over the vows they took. Most often times they realize what a horrible mistake they made and get on with life as best they can.. always carrying a ton of guilt.

The guilt thats carried is often times more than a person can bear.. you stated she had a mini-stroke.. I believe it.

My advice brother is to go to marriage counseling. Make the day you start the FIRST day of the rest of BOTH your lives. You saw something in each other when you married.. it hasnt gone away.. just clouded a little bit. WORK and FIGHT for your marriage like you fight for and WITH your brothers with that M4. Dont retreat or fall back.. go forward and take out the enemy... which is the "distrust" that has invaded your marriage.

Trust that the Lord knows your pain.. And hers too. May He Bless you and help you.