I don't have any real friends and I really want to know how do I change that?

[Alon]

This might be a bit long since I want to say several things, but I would really appreciate you reading all of it.

I'm a 16 year old MALE currently attending high school and I am in a situation some might call "catastrophic". My issue is that I don't have anyone I can truly call a friend. I don't have any physical problems(in fact I would say I am a pretty decent looking guy) and I do great in school. I also try to be nice to every person i meet and respect everyone. Although there are many people in my school, I cant find a group where I fit in. There are some people who I talk to and socialize with and try to pursue a friendship, but for some reason they are not willing to. I recently went to a 2 week summer camp, where I met some great people and decided that it would be a great chance for me to make some real friends. I then exchanged phone numbers and it then turned out that I was doing all the calling and rarely actually got called by them and whenever I called most of the time they said they were busy and i stopped calling them as i don't want to annoy them. I think the issue is that people don't find it interesting to hang around me, and I think that I might be an introvert, but I am NOT shy.

I recently discovered that in University people are a lot more mature and are more willing to become friends(*please tell me if this is true!!). Because of this I am kind of looking forward to finishing high school and moving on with my life. I know this sucks but because of my lack of friends I end up sitting at home the entire day on my computer or T.V and I am REALLY tired of this! I really want to go out with people and just enjoy myself, in fact I am jealous of the people who go out and enjoy themselves. The only thing I really do to get out of the house, is the nearby gym where even there I can't find friends. I am constantly having this weird feeling in my stomach whenever I remember that I don't have friends and its getting annoying.

I really need advice/assistance as I don't want to be in this situation anymore, and heading into University I want to be able to have a group of real friends, please don't say anything like, "oh don't worry it will get better" as I really do want to fix this! anyone having the same issue as me please feel free to comment as well

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[the kid]

everyone goes through that in life you are not alone but there are several thing you can try first stop telling people you are a lonely person instead I want you to think of yourself as an amazing person that is ready to meet the world . next I want you to walk up to people and just say hello with a smile and a handshake and introduce yourself to different people . find something in common to talk about in order to keep that great conversation goring. listen to my advise and you will have friends in no time.

[janysha]

if you want I can be your friend am looking for real friend two

[Maddie]

wow you sound exactly like me, just I'm a girl at high school. I've met so many people at school and none of them seem to be interested in talking to me or hanging out with me, it sucks i know. I'd always start convos with them or plan events and they've never really done the same back. I have 1 year left of high school and i basically cant wait to leave haaha, uni will be so much different because there will be people who like the same things as you do and you can actually relate to them as well, it just seems like a better place to make friends. just stick with the people you know now and when high schools over, just have fun and meet new people. thats exactly what im doing! but if you're really willing to make friends now, just walk up to people and start a convo, even if its anything like " hey do you if there is any homework next week?" something along the lines if that.

[Sophiexx]

Try joining after school clubs that interests you. This gets you surrounded by other students who have a common interest as you and you might find that you have other common interests as well. You can also try going out of the house with siblings or cousins that you get along with well. Like, go try going to the mall or the park. You could have your sibling/cousin introduce you to their friends. I know it probably sounds weird having family introduce you to people but, if you get along with them well, they probably have friends who would get along with you. I spend a LOT of time with my brothers and my cousins and I meet pretty amazing people because of that, even though they're years older than me.

Another thing is, don't judge people by looking at who they hang out with or they dress. I doubt you do but, I'm gonna say it anyways. People don't always act the way you'd expect. Not all really smart people spend hours studying and panicking over tests. Not all athletes like to mess around or goof off. Talk to a variety of people even if they don't look like someone you would be around.

It's hard now, and it'll probably always be hard to make friends. I should know, I spent most of my childhood alone. I'm really shy, and I don't know how to talk to people. Though, you're not the only one who has trouble making friends so, don't get upset about it. It's a common thing. Good luck on finding some amazing people though. c:

[Anita]

I was in the same situation as you until I went to university and everyone was more friendly. Its a high school stage and this wont happen for the rest of your life, trust me!!! Take it from someone who was in the exact situation as you, looking back now I laugh at all those people who didn't want to be friends with me. No one is better than you, remember that. Funny enough that all the people who didn't want to be friends with me in high school now all add me on facebook and try to contact me. What happened with me is that I found friends and they were my sisters!!! I became so close to sisters and I thank god I had them. You will find friends in University, dont beat yourself up and feel sorry for yourself or ever blame yourself. Its not your fault its just some people can be mean and hateful, for the moment while your still in highschool I would suggest spending time with your siblings, cousins etc....Dont let it put you down!! All the best!!