I'm I being used by my new girlfriend?

[Stevie]

I don't really know if I'm being used or not but I think I am lol. (Sounds so weird)

So basically I just asked someone out and they have a child, I know the father of the child and he has /nothing/ at all to do with the child, although he'd like to. I liked this other girl to start of with but that ship sailed but I was still unsure whether to hold on a bit longer to see if anything would happen but it didn't. So I moved on, couple weeks later started getting to know the now girlfriend. Long story cut short, we got together.

But that night of getting together she was writing stuff on twitter 'He has got a new father now' like really petty and immature things, I've met the child once and we played a game, I haven't whatsoever built a strong bond yet with the child and me and the mother have been together less than 24 hours before she starts writing all this bull crap about how the child has a new father. How I'll be taking him to daycare and so forth. Obviously the father saw this and she hit the roof and they had a argument on Twitter.

I thought I liked her, but now I'm just unsure and I'm in catch 22 because I don't want to feel like I used her because we did sleep together then after she wrote all that shit on twitter, and she'd probably be like 'wow you used me for sex' and I didn't I only slept with her because I genuinely thought we'd be a couple but now I see all this shade being thrown at her ex, I feel as if she's using me to get back at him.

On top of that she was asking me questions such as 'will you help out with my son, if we were together' of course I said yes, I ain't about to get with a woman and she has a child and not help out but I'm not about to take the biological fathers place either.

I want to let her down easily but I also want it to work out, but I don't think it can with this explosion of shade to her ex. I also don't want her to think I used for sex because gods honest truth I didn't.

[Juliberry]

I think she is using you to get her baby papa jealous. She seems quite immature, I would step off a bit if I were you.

[XxISHAxX]

The only thing I can think of is maybe have a talk to her and say for now you just want to take it slow as you really want this to work out, but that she needs to slow down on the fathering thing. Taking on someone else child can be very overwhelming at first, thats is understandable. Then you have this worry that you will not be able to create a bond with the child and ect. If what she is putting up on twitter about the whole new father thing is making you very uncomfortable then just explain to her how your feeling and you don't really want any trouble between you and the biological father, and to just keep it quiet for now. Good Luck.

[devonian Rodders]

tell her you are worried about the speed at which she posted personal details on twitter, as some people may get the wrong impression.

[Berry Curious]

I think this girl is eager to be with someone in replacement of the baby daddy,--God knows everyone shares everything in twitter nowadays. I think you should just talk to her and tell her about how you feel... just be honest about it.