What's going on? How do I make him like me again?

[Sophie]

I used to fancy a friend of a friend, let's just call him bob, last year. I got over him a while ago but now he's started fancying me. I would often catch him looking me and all his friends would often say to me that he wants to kiss me lmao. :L We have 2 lessons a week together, and on Wednesday he asked me out on the school emails. I said I'll think about it. Everyday all Bob's friends would ask me if I said yes or no. I said I didn't know. I didn't want to make a fool out of myself and say yes just incase it was a joke. I could tell that he was serious because he was shy and blushed alot but I was still kinda nervous. I did like him a bit but I wasn't sure so I just wanted to give it time. After a while they stopped asking me if I said yes or no. I messaged him on Facebook saying "is it true" and he didn't "read" it but the next day when I was walking home I was behind him and he was with a friend and we were talking and when we had to go different ways he said "it's not true by the way".

Did I do something wrong for him to lose interest? WHY did he lose interest? Or is he just saying it wasn't true because he thinks I rejected him? Tomorrow it's the last time I have a lesson with him because our timetables are all changing. What should I do? Thank you in advance, sorry it's kinda long lmao

[keakar]

well lets see, he asked you out and you said "i'll think about it" that's blowing him off nicely and that's how im sure it was perceived by him. its a simple yes or no question and anything else is just saying "I don't want to hurt your feelings by rejecting you but no I don't want to go out with you". he even had his friends do a search mission to be sure you aren't interested and they confirmed this by your responses to their inquiries.

his comment to you was a defence mechanism to avoid the direct rejection he felt was coming from you if he pressed the question based on how you reacted to everything leading up to that point.

he is very shy and felt pressed into action because your time together was ending soon so he overcame his fear and reached out to let you know he was interested and your response could only be perceived as you were not interested and just being polite about it.

life is short, act on your feelings and what happens will happen. shy guys are often too afraid to make the first move and need more then hints and suggestions to get the message that you like them back.

if he and his friends are playing games with you then so what, take the chance and if they are jerks then you move on knowing you made your feelings known and don't end up regretting never knowing if you past up on a good thing.

it may be too late at this point so just tell him directly in plain english that if he asked you in person and was serious then you would like to go out and get to know him better. what do you have to lose at this point.