What did I do wrong for him to ignore me?

[Dollface91]

My boyfriend (probably ex-boyfriend now) won't talk to me. We dated since April 20 of last year. He's everything I want in a guy but he worked a lot. So I would visit him when I got off work. I would leave roses and notes on his car, bring flowers, bake cookies and cakes, send him text messages. I even made him a cake for his birthday. I got him a bible, a really nice necklace and made him a scarf for Christmas. He said that he was going to quit one of his two jobs this year so that he and I could spend more time together. After New Years, that's when the trouble started. I had received some very frightening news about something from my past, that I want to forget. I started having nightmares. I wanted to talk to my boyfriend about this but he wasn't at his job and he didn't answer his phone. I went on his Facebook profile to leave him a message. I've been on his profile before to look at some of his pictures. I didn't notice this before, but his profile said that he was married. When we had first started dating, he said that he wasn't married. I asked him several times. I was angry and confused and left a bitter voicemail.
I've had boyfriends who have dragged me to hell and back and I thought I was in for another heartache when I took a good look at his profile. I later found out he wasn't and I cooled down later on that week and stopped at one of his jobs to talk to him, but he just ignored me. At first I thought he was busy, but then I realized he was deliberately ignoring. I thought leaving a rose on his car that night and baking him a cake he liked and a writing an apology note would ease the tension, and we would talk and work things out. But that didn't work. I tried again tonight to see him, but he still ignored me. He even yelled at one of his co workers to "tell her to ******* go". Why is he doing this? What did I do wrong? I don't want to lose him.
He does have two jobs. I visited him at both.
I wasn't doing this to bribe him. I was doing this because I really like him, I wanted to and I thought these things were what an ideal girlfriend or wife was supposed to do.

[PeteRoy]

It sounds like he is with another woman and he doesn't have the courage to tell you.

[david b]

Why would anyone have a profile that says they are married if they weren't? I don't know why you say that you are sure he isn't. I'll bet he is. It may be that while he was telling you that he was working he was spending time with his wife instead. It's also possible that his wife found out about you and that's why he's acting the way he is. All the evidence seems to fit that scenario.

[lakecity21]

I don't mean to be disrespectful but, you are stalking him. He doesn't want to see you anymore. It doesn't matter what the reason is. Just move on and live well. It sounds like you are clingy and you probably come across as desperate. Think about it do you want someone who is desperate?

[Stephanie]

Dont ever give 100% to a person thats not giving you 100%. Give him time to breathe let him come to you. You would feel much better. Try to stay busy as possible to keep him out your mind at the time.

[Scrooge Jones]

Don't run yourself ragged doing all these things for this guy when he won't even talk to you. You don't need to bribe him into giving you his time. He should just want to. He could still be angry about you not believing him and just need space to cool down. Or he actually is married/seeing someone else and finally decided to cut you lose because of it. It's hard to say because it's Facebook and you can't take those things too seriously all the time. Whatever it is, you've done all you can, and it's his turn to make the move. Let him come to you. In your case it might be the best thing. No offense, but you might be "too much" for him sometimes. Letters..notes..cakes...showing up. Wonderful in moderation, but not ALL the time. If he's not doing anything to deserve those things, why are you doing them?

And sometimes these things just happen and it has nothing to do with you. People have their own demons and that causes them to shut others out while they deal with them. Hopefully whatever is going on doesn't last long and he finally resurfaces to explain things.