Being haunted by my past.?

[pinkisses]

How to handle a situation when your ex boyfriend' wife is still worried about you?

Its complicated basically we were good friends and when he got into a relationship with his now wife she hated the fact that he was still around me and kept me around no matter what he always came back to me.

She ended up pregnant and I cut him off completely..I moved on now engaged to my boyfriend of 4yrs and have a family of my own now.

With in those years of not knowing anything of my ex he's been trying to contact me through friends..finally just last year I decided to reply just to see how things were..he told me he made a mistake..he loves me..and it was me he should had married..

Kinda f*cked up right? Yea i know

I told him don't contact me anymore I don't want any drama..now his wife up until this very day is constantly bringing my name up and is worried if I'm in contact with him..she's watching me on social media and its been 4 years now..what should I do?

[STEEL]

Keep doing what you're doing. NOTHING! Don't respond to him, don't email him, don't reply to his messages on facebook, and don't accept any friend requests from him or his wife. If you have mutual friends, don't bring him up or mention him at all. No good will ever come of it.

[LEYKIS 101]

Get offline for a while!!!

[Barb M]

Block them both. Restrict your visibility on the internet by changing user names, passwords, and only be visible to "close friends" only on Facebook.

[Renee Aponte]

Block her as well. The best way to avoid drama is to remove it and if she isn't blocked then you need to fix that and if you can't block her (but with most social media you can) tell her that she has nothing to worry about because you are happy and in love with the man that you are engaged to. If her husband tries to contact you again I would just ignore it because that is not being fair to his wife and I am sure that you wouldn't want the tables turned.

[MightyGenius845]

Green eyed monsters will always give you grief.

[something fishy]

WOW that's messed up

I think all of you stayed emotionally attached and never moved on...although you moved through some life changing events you never let go

I would simply change all social media...cell number etc...everything...so no one from the past could contact you...when you change it say good bye to the past and all the hurt and heartache...

it sounds like he was using u as a good booty call...why does anyone stay in contact after all those years and events..

I would want to move forward and put all that energy and worry into the new love of my life...in to new first experiences...into making myself a better person...

if a friend mentions him...I would say I am not interested..we had our time and that is over and ...I changed everything to move forward...I have a new man that loves me unconditionally and until now I didn't know what that was...I am not a door mat and I wish he would leave me alone...do not ask them to send that message to him...just tell them how you really feel...

as for the other girl..woow boarding psycho..insecure..her actions say volumes...those 2 lost souls need each other...like I said change all social media...delete it...block it...

you know what they say it is a small world...if possible a move would help...honestly you need a new group of friends..a different circle...it would be refreshing believe me..

I went with someone who was divorced...but honestly they never let go...they maintained contact and thought I should be friends with the X...BIG NO!..so he was still emotionally attached... talked and visited often...pleaseeee...I was out of their fast and didn't let the door hit me in the A$$ on the way out...you have to move forward for you..and the new love of your life...

ok that's your free therapy session without a co pay..for the day...email me for more therapy...lol

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[l8tr g8tr]

How do you know his wife is scoping you out? Just block BOTH of them on your social media websites. That's easy enough...

[Tartersauce]

Message this guy, "If we were married, you'd be telling someone else you loved them. I feel horrible for your wife. I should never have bothered with you once you two were together, and since I stopped, I found a wonderful MAN who knows how to be faithful. Leave me alone and tell your wife she has nothing (from me) to worry about."

If you're still talking to him, stop. You have a relationship and what goes around comes around -- you don't want some tramp causing problems for you a few years down the road.

If other people bring it up, say you understand why she's upset and wish you hadn't been involved with him after they started dating. Say something like, "It's too bad he can't just appreciate the good woman he has."

Say and do things that will make her feel like you aren't a threat. If you aren't willing to do those things, you are still your own problem.