can t stop thinking about my ex?

[Ashleigh]

Ok so I broke up with my exboyfriend of 3 years 6 months ago. Now I can't stop thinking about him, everyday I think about him. I don't care about him and am glad to be out of a sad and lonely relationship. He has a new girlfriend now very recently and I don't really care cuz I thought he was a neglecting boyfriend. Anyway I stopped caring for him 6 months before I left him, but I tried to fix things cuz I DID care for him. Those feelings died tho. And he's not on my Facebook anymore

I have a new boyfriend now and we have been together for nearly 3 months. I cars about him so much and we have been friends for 3 years.

So how can I stop thinking about him, why am I thinking about him? I care for my new boyfriend now and I have no feelings for my ex.

[Smarty]

You are thinking about him because he has someone new in his life - poor girl doesn't know what she's in for does she. The reality is that if he was a bad boyfriend to you, he will be a bad boyfriend to her too. Sooner or later she will realize that.

I think you need to appreciate what you have in front of you and let go of the past. Looking back is not a smart move. Your future is ahead of you, not behind you.

Good luck!

[Tisha]

You dont love your ex now or care about him but you gotta remember this at some point in time you did love and care about him you were with him for a long time 2 years maybe even 10 years down the road you will still think about him its just how things are

[Ruby]

There is nothing wrong in you thinking (just memories appearing) about someone you have been with and cared about for as much as 3 years. That's a long time. I sometimes think (happens like every now and then) even about guys I just spent 3 months with. It really depends on how deep the bond was and how much time passed.

And for you it has been only 6 months, that's not a long time gap. You need at least another 6 more to finally get over it. It is also good you deleted the contacts in social media, better if you throw out all his gifts (expect some really valuable ones if you have), delete photographs (why keeping things that are not part of your life anymore?) and most importantly - you should let your anger go.

I know you still got a part of you that is angry with him, for all the mistreating and misbehaving. As much as you keep it within yourself - you only poison your own brain. Let it go. Forgive his mistake, write it off to his stupidity and move on.

Your ex appearing in your head is normal. Not normal is when this starts ruining your current relationships.