Is this weird and would you check your man?

[sweetFlowfox]

Im having a long distance relationship with a man I've been seeing for 5+ years. The last two have been long distance- he moved to Hawaii to start a business and I stayed on the mainland to finish my education. I have plans to move there in the next 6 months. Were both in our late 20s. We've always been close talking nearly evey day. Hes never been into Facebook but recently he started using it. I noticed within the span of a few weeks ALOT of younger 20ish year old people on his facebook friends list out of nowhere. I asked him about it and he said that its just the people he meets out on the beach. He lives in a touristy party town where almost all the people are partying constantly. And it is a small town, so everybody knows everybody and everyone bumps into everyone all day long. But then he got very defensive and said that I made him feel like a pedophile, that being friends with young people isnt creepy. That weirded me out completely. I actually just assumed he was maybe getting fresh with some younger women. Would you check your man if you saw a bunch of young hotties cropping up on his facebook (despite how awkward a facebook fight is ) And is it weird that hes adding girls as young as 19 to his facebook? He says he has met all of these people. Theres like 2 main beaches in the town he lives in so I wouldnt be surprised if theyre always bumping into each other.

[Belinda]

Depends on his other behaviors I would say. Does he still talk to you as much as he did? Or does he seem pre-occupied nowadays? If he is starting to get noticeably more distant with you then it might be cause for concern. But if not I would say not need to stir up trouble where there is none. When moving to a new place and starting a business its important to network and increase his clientele, so he may actually just be making connections.

I would say look at the ratio of girls to guys and also their age range. Could they be potential costumers? Or potential friends he may choose to hang out with?

Overall trust your gut. If it says there is something fishy going on, confront it. Even if its a simple "Hey, being a girlfriend that is far a way from you, it makes me a little uncomfortable with a bunch of hot girls popping up as your friends." Let him know how it makes you feel and how a long distant relationship can be difficult on both ends. Also ask him how he would feel if you started being friends with a bunch of random guys all of a sudden. That can at least put him in your shoes

Hope this helps