He deleted me from Facebook to test me?

[Molly]

Long story short, I dated this kid Brian during my freshman year of high school. It didn’t work out but we ended up becoming friends. We are now freshman in college and both have significant others. About two weeks ago I noticed he deleted me from Facebook. I sent him a text saying,” hey, if I’ve ever done anything to offend you then I’m sorry.” I got no response. Then a week later after I texted him, he texted me saying, “Hey I was testing people to see if they would talk to me. I was kind of testing people.” I was really annoyed, but I just ignored him. I actually deleted his number. It’s just so immature and something a middle school student would do. I hate people that play mind games. I’ve always been there for him and he has to “test” me? My mom thinks I’m in the wrong for not responding. Am I?

[deanyourfriendinky]

Wrong? Nah!

Equally mature? Yup!

Being a human is a complicated affair. Emotions are remarkably unpredictable. We all do stupid things. You have no way of knowing (short of asking him) what exactly was going on in his heart and in his mind at the time. There are influences beyond the realm of your friendship with Brian to which you aren't privy (and over which you had no control).

Talking it out is the only way to mend the friendship. If you understand how important friendships are to the human species, then you'll cut the guy some slack and reply to his text. Mend the friendship. Or, let it stay dead. It's your decision.

[Zhi Li]

It’s just so immature and something a middle school student would do.
You are correct. More like H.S. than M.S. but whatever.
I am trying to understand why you would waste your time and ours explaining that you used to date. How is that relevant? How is his and your significant other status relevant? You almost sound like a user yourself.
Perhaps he was feeling lonely? A real friend would tolerate a certain amount of flawed behavior. OTOH, if he just manipulates people "for fun" which, on the surface (if you're also in H.S. and lack any ability to empathasize), appears to be the case here, then yeah I'm not cool with it either. Adults don't leave important relationships hanging. If you've decided that you no longer wish to be his FB friend (or any other kind) you should tell him that. Best to say that you were annoyed, and would rather not expend the emotional energy in this kind of juvenile manipulation so have decided to put some space in the friendship. Talking things out is almost always the right way to leave things.
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Bottom line: both sides here are typically juvenile (assuming age ~19); an opportunity to grow for you, an opportunity to learn for him.

[Elicitme]

Zhi Li was just rude.. Whether it's irrelevant or not, that isn't the point -.- But I agree with Dean for the most part. Yeah, that is pretty annoying when people do that. So basically he was removing people to see if they would notice, and come to him about it, that way he could tell who his ''real'' friends are. I understand why he did it, but yeah, that's immature, and the fact he took a week to reply back to you is not cool either. He left you hanging for a week after you took his bait? Pshh, not cool at all.

But to answer your question, no I don't think you're in the wrong for not responding and being annoyed by that. I do think if you value his friendship you would be honest with him about how it made you feel, straight up re-add his number and text him telling him how you feel about it, that you have been there for him and that it bothered you that he felt he had to ''test'' your friendship by seeing if you would notice if he removed you. It really is that simple But as Dean said, it's up to you whether or not you want to put effort into your friendship with him, but in my opinion, you're not in the wrong for ignoring his text.

[george]

You're way better off without him and his little "tests". You're not wrong for not responding. Your mom is wrong for trying to push you into unnecessary drama.