Why my church family refuse to fellowship with me?

[Stlouis]

My church family and I are on hi & bye basic. They never invite me to small group bible study, none of them were willing to join a small group bible study with me, never invited to fellowship gatherings such as bowling, never fellowship with me at the church picnics. I am ignored on facebook. It not like i have worldly things on page or negative post. Some of the older members just ask if I'm still working, if I'm pregant (I've never been pregant & dont have any children.) and why I have not been married yet. Most just shun me off as if I am the devil. I believe I am cool people. I smile all the time. I am friendly & considered. At times I feel rejected from my church fam. I have been a member for 5yrs, regular in attendance, & active in ministry. While maintaining a peaceful lifestyle. Sometime I think maybe some believe I lead a wild worldly life. I just go to work, church, home, skating, to the gym, movies, mall & out to eat. I am concerned because I would love to fellowship more with my church family. I believe fellowship is great for the body of the church.

-Love God, Love People :-)
Oh I am not forceful about fellowshiping, not clingy but maybe different. I attend a church of most african america members. I've been accused of being different/ weird for an african american female. Maybe that has little do w/ anything. Hey its a try to figure out a solution. Help please.
(please excuse the grammar. Hope this message is easy to understand)

Thanks

[revulayshun]

I'm not a mind reader...why don't you just show up sometime? Or when they are discussing a get together ask if you can pop by?

[Samantha]

I would say you need to find another church where you are
welcomed, different or not. The right church is a family of
believers who care about each other, are there for you and
especially want to include those who don't know everyone
or feel a total part of everything.

Pehaps, you also wait to be invited, rather than just
showing up and letting them know by you appearance
that you want to be included. They could be
"translating" you non involvement to non-interest.

I have found...especially in a large church that joining
some things is an important part of getting to know people.
The choir, the Bible Study, etc. usually are open for everyone
to attend. If you do this, and you are still shunned ..or
think you are...find another church...there are many around...African American ones...but be church they teach
God's Word as truth...or they won't be following the guidelines
I am referring to. And my church would welcome you anytime!

[taras i. pgh.]

I would pray about God leading you to a different church. You could also ask your pastor or someone else, what's up with this.. The bible says show yourself to be friendly if you want to have friends. Sounds like you did that. Maybe some idiot slandered you to someone within. You know how news travels, true or not. Even if something was true, what about mercy, forgiveness, Grace? I'd get the hell out of there or better yet, leave it right where it is. If you don't get a straight answer go seek out a place that would welcome another member of the body.

[Fireball]

PPL ARE SO BUSY WORKING NOWADAYS...YOU MIGHT WISH TO JOIN ONE OF THE ADULT SUNDAY SCHOOL OR OTHER CHURCH GROUPS. Big churches have a lot of choices. Try Methodist.

[ros]

Hi Stlouis,
I hope you can drive because you are a very lucky lady if you can. Most people have to put up with whatever because they cannot travel.
My advice:
Run from that demonic gathering. You have been called to a higher place and it's beyond clear that these people cannot acommodate your anointing. And because they are too small to accommodate you, they are trying to steal it from you. To strip you off of it. They will avoid you until you break down in depression, inferiority and hopelessness. Envy and jealousy consumes them. And it certainly started with one single member but you know what the bible says about the tongue. Now it spread like wild fire and they know that if they keep at it, they will break you. Soon you will look, be, do, talk and behave just like they envisage. They know pressure works. It just needs patience and envious and jealous people always have plenty of time to devote to their devious plans.
Drive around and try 2, 3, 4, 5 UNTIL you find a church that feels like home. Pursue God, don't let small minded people trap you. Check churches online. Ask people to recommend one and then GO AND VISIT. THEN YOU CHOOSE. Good luck.

[Carla]

If you're not accepted, that is being judged in a way. It doesn't look good for a church.

[robert c]

you are an example of what Jesus taught in matthew.9:14-36, don't bear grudges, carry on with charitable works and one day your family may need you.