will my wife lie & cheat again?

[Steve]

hi all

i am my wife's 3rd husband, she has cheated on everyone of them, im not sure if she has cheated on me, but she has spoken to men & hid text messages & on one occasion even set up a secrete Facebook account to talk to a bloke that i had my suspicions about.....she cant seem to tell the truth ever, her last husband she cheated on him & had a kid with some low life,

she even lied today on facebook, basically my brother inlaws cousin casey batchelor is in celebrity big brother, to try & make her self look good, she put "my cousin is in celebrity big brother" simple things like that she lies about, casey is no relation to her what so ever, it really irritates me

she loves attention from men even though she says she doesn't,

when we first met, she would smile at every bloke in site & even wave at them, blokes she does not even know,

this last near cheat has given me so many doubts about weather i can ever really trust her or if she can even be faithfull with anyone she is with.

is it allways the case once a cheat allways a cheat???

[Lovinglife]

Statistically Yes she most likely will

All the signs via her behaviors are already there

Once a cheater always a cheater is not always true whatsoever- It can just be a one off

But it's her current lies and behavior and hiding texts etc that give it all away

Sorry

[All The Rage]

First of all you need to set boundaries with her about all this 1. she has already lied to you with the secret text message stuff and the new facebook account. You need to let her know you don't appreciate being lied to and that it has diminished the trust you have for her and she needs to delete that fake facebook account she has made and not be secretive and start putting an effort in your relationship. Ask her what is up with her behavior don't just ignore it or it will get worse and you may end up hating her trust is # 1 in a relationship since she already broke trust there needs to be some work done to mend it on her part she needs to be honest about her intentions you need to talk to her asap before it escalates. Obviously she does not know how to be in a relationship and it sounds like she could end up cheating so you need to sit her down and figure it out with her and if shes not willing to stop with this shady behavior than maybe you should throw down couples counseling to save the marriage if not than why stay with the woman.

[dude]

All I know is liars lie and cheaters cheat. It's their nature.

[Anna D]

Yes. Effing duh!

[Adeel]

i my self am a cheater and trying to change but her action is suspicious and donot tell that she learned some thing from past experiance. So watch out.
Talk to her tell her how you feel about it. Donot tell her about you looking at her secret account etc.

[Pressure Drop]

"once a cheat allways a cheat" ....... No, I think people can change.

From reading your post, I do not think your wife wants to change.
Your wife loves attention from men and you rather like the drama.
You had to know these days were coming when you married her.

You can continue to try catching her, looking surprised and hurt ..... or you can get on board and enjoy the ride.

Trust that she is the attention seeking hot little cheater she wants to be.

[sophieb]

well you knew what she does (smiles at every bloke in site and waves) prior to your marrying her, so her habit remains, and I'm sure you knew it would, so what's the problem?

Some people cheat, some don't, some cheat because they are unhappy, some unsatisfied, some are looking for their dream which will never come, some cheat because of the thrill of secretiveness, some cheat because of the person they're with, and some are permitted or told by their spouse to cheat (in that case it's not considered cheating if it's done with permission). so in answer to your question, the answer is "no". She probably hides messages because she doesn't want you to get the wrong impression. she's just having fun.

One should never compare themselves with someone's past loves or situations. Each situation is totally different from the other. And, not all people are the same. So your rant was for naught. Maybe you need a hobby to keep you busy, seems you have too much time on your hands.





people on the internet fib all the time (it's called white lies or fibs) and it's due to anonymity, due to fluffing or puffing their own feathers (people do that all the time on resumes) and it seems to become second nature, so don't worry how she's describing herself on the net.