Emotionally disturbed ex-boyfriend?

[Poppyon]

When I was 16-18 I dated a guy who two years old for 2 1/2 years. He was controlling and emotionally abusive after a few months of dating. I ended up mustering up the courage to leave him. After I did so, he made it his mission to tarnish my reputation. Multiple guys stopped dating me knowing he was my ex. I was socially banished. After MANY years of unhappiness, I met a friend of my sister who is six years older. We've been together for a year. Long story short we went to a neighborhood bar for his friends birthday; we avoid these places. My ex-boyfriend was there. His friend made a comment that "Oh, looks like she is dating a Nazi now." My boyfriend was unaware my ex was in that crowd. Upon telling him, my boyfriend got was raging mad because he had heard them making derogatory sexual comments about me - and he didn't know it was about me.. I tried to play it off like I wasn't upset, but my boyfriend saw it hurt my feelings. Later on my ex-boyfriend was standing at my back commenting loudly, "Someone wants me really bad." because my boyfriend kept watching him.

He took to social networking immediately saying I wasn't over him and that we broke up four years ago and he has "that effect" on people. My boyfriend saw this and flipped out. My boyfriend jetted off, found him in the bathroom, and threw him against the wall in the bars bathroom in a choke hold. He threatened him and dragged him up to me telling him he better cut the drama and grow up. He told him he will hurt him he mentions my name ever again. He told my ex, "You better respect her and apologize." He was being entirely fake - stuttering and shaking as he came over and said "There are no problems." The next morning I see my ex had wrote "Nig** you don't have connections. Suck my fuc*ing d**k...oh wait like your girl used to." Ignoring, threatening, physical action - none of it works. I genuinely believe my ex-boyfriend is delusional or emotionally disturbed from his abusive home life.
My ex-boyfriend hates me because I "abandoned" him. Its the "If I can't have her, I am going to ruin her life" mentality. He wants me to be upset, or to cause a fight between my new boyfriend and I so I am single and unhappy like he is.

I genuinely believe something is wrong with him, but how do I not let this hurt my feelings?

[Tyler Daigle]

Usually when get left by the first woman it messes him up for life, so when you date a guy, think about the severe pain it will cause him, help him not to be controlling go t counseling with him if ur dating a guy that way if he still wants you and if you love him.

[Leo D]

Stop letting his feelings run your life.

Why are you even looking at what he writes? Block him EVERYWHERE!!!

Sounds like you've got a good man now. Invest your energy there!

[Mr.Annonymous]

Let him go.

[Paul]

It is called a restraining order and you get it from the courts.

You already have proof, the facebook page, and anyone that witness his behavior. In addition, the next time you come across him take a video of him saying things, that would be even more evidence. Just make sure you keep your cool. If you do this you will have to keep your new boyfriend under control otherwise your old boyfriend can press charges against him!

I am wondering if there is something deeper going on here. Do you like the fact that your new boyfriend beats him up? Are you still keeping the war going in a passive / aggressive style? After all you have to do is forget this guy. Cut him off of everything then he is gone. Do you like the drama in some way? If not…

You should be able to just drop him. Even if you live in a small town, if anyone says anything you can just say “Oh, him, he is just jealous I have a new boyfriend!”

As long as you take the high road, it will be obvious your old boyfriend is on the low road!