My boyfriend likes his ex girlfriend's selfies on instagram?

[anon]

Am I overreacting? They dated twice over two years and she cheated both times. Over the last month she started using her Instagram again and my boyfriend has been liking nearly all of her pictures. It worried me so I brought it up and since then has not liked any of her pictures until about two days ago. Two selfies and two other things. I feel like I am overreacting because his profile picture on Facebook and Instagram is of us and he has added pictures of us before. Or is he trying to make her jealous? We have been best friends for a year and have been dating for 3 months. But at the same time, it's just likes, right? I mean, I like my guy friend's pictures. Why does this bug me so much?!
I am afraid to bring up the issue because I have already done so. He apologized to me, said it meant nothing, said I was the only one, and looked VERY concerned when I told him how I felt. He said they never talk either. He looked like as if he was about to cry and he held me super close.

[Martha]

Well first of all nothing wrong with you.also your just trying to take what's your witch is your boyfriend and I do think that's bad he liking other pictures of girls also know it's his ex you should tell him something or just wait I little more days and see how it goes hopefully this was help

[Jay]

Exes are always a sore subject. Since you 2 haven't known each other that long I wouldn't worry as much yet. Everyone has a past and a lot of people don't let go of it right away. If you 2 had been a couple for over a year I'd worry a little more. At this stage in the relationship your still learning things about each other. Not everything you learn your gunna like. The question over time becomes. Can I trust this person can I talk to this person and is this person right for me. The short advice I can give is give it time and protect your emotions until you know each other better. Never give your heart away until you have trust.

[Tabitha]

I think you are over reacting, but it's natural to get a little mad but its just a couple of pictures. I don't think you have anything to worry about unless he's writing comments on her photos that might suggest otherwise.

[S]

It's bugging you because it's his ex. I would never do that to my girlfriend if I knew it made her feel insecure.

I reckon you should tell him not to otherwise you'll leave him. You're not a doormat and you have to stick up for your feelings. I'm not saying her do this but where does it stop?

If he likes her pictures you might be able to put up with it but what if he starts commenting? Meeting up with her "as friends" ?

You have to decide if you can trust him so i think you should talk to him definitely.

If he loves you with all his heart he wouldn't do anything to hurt you

[Andrew]

all i know is i had a gf i wouldnt like no girl photo or group of girl photo or nothing. im normal all for the homie in relationships


..........BUT *** THAT BE MAD VERY MAD

[Ruby]

no, never let a guy make you think this is ok. because it is not okay!
I would be as mad as you, if not even more. just don't blame the other girl, but think - why is your bf potentially liking and looking, and paying attention to someone when he has you in his life?
ask him directly, let him know you are not OK with that. if she is just some friend, maybe it is fine to do so. but even if he tries to make her feel jealous- I would be worried! why would he? isn't he consumed enough with what is going on in your couple?
whatever that is - don't ignore it, because that is definitely a red flag.

[Democritus]

You're not overreacting. It would raise anyone's suspicions. He sounds a bit needy, like he's still trying to get his ex's approval after she cheated on him. Tell him she's his ex for a reason, and he needs to move on.

There are only a few valid reasons to stay in touch with an ex:
1. They have kids together
2. They work together and cannot avoid each other.

If he doesn't have one of the above excuses, then it's a clear sign that he has not moved on after their breakup. This is a bad sign for you. I would worry that he's just using you to try to make her jealous. I would make your boundaries clear, and find out what's really going on here.