What should i do in this bad situation? (please read)?

[Heather Johnaon]

this might be long but please read it all.. you will probably find it entertaining. So a little over a week ago with my best friend we went to her guy friends house..note that this guy friend has some feelings for her and my friend has some feelings for him too. well we got there and he was there, my friends bf, her bf's brother and one other guy. yeah ik my friend has a bf and has some small feelings for another guy..that's confusing but yeah. so my friend was just on the couch with her bf and i went in the kitchen with the other guys..we we're drinking alcohol and just talking and then the guys house we were at i went outside with and me and him we're just smoking..he was alittle drunk and so was i and we were just talking and before we went outside all the other guys were like "you should suck his dick!!" so outside the guy was like "what were they saying to you?" and then i told him and he was like "wow i mean if you wanna..you don't have to but if you wanna your an attractive girl" and i was like julia will kill us (my best friend) and he was like no i don't think so she cant do anything about it shes dating josh (her bf) and i was thinking for a long time and then i was like okay and then he was like u sure and i was like yeah.soooo he grabbed my hand and brought me upstairs and it was soo dark in his room and um lets just say we did everything but sex. and then after we stopped someone walked in and was like "there's a car at the end of the driveway" it was my mom i lied where i was and she figured out where i was and came to get me-__- so i had to put on his shirt cause i couldn't find mine and i rushed outside. well my mom knew i was drinking cause she could smell it so she took my phone but when i came home i felt sick because my my friend julia..i didn't even say one word to her when i walked out of his room. so when i called her she was soooo upset and she told me they all stood outside the door and recorded what we were saying..and the noises i made. Well me and her made up because i sent her a longgg paragraph on twitter(cause i still don't have my phone back)and we talked about it alottt but me and the guy haven't talked since. we cant do anything else obvi but should i like text him when i get my phone back? for all i know he could've txted me i just dk cause i don't have my phone. Bless anyone who read this all and please say your opinion on the situation and what i should do.

[Leanne]

Do you need to talk to this other guy? Do you like him? It may be awkward for him to talk about it, because when you are drunk, you do things that you wouldn't normally do and if he has feelings for your friend then he may be feeling down about what he did. Maybe just texting him if he is okay is a good idea, but otherwise nothing else really needs to be done. You and your friend are okay now, and you seem to be back on track other than being without your phone right now. All you can do at the moment is wait until you get your phone back and then see where you think it is best to go from there.

[Ben]

I think you need to make sure things are right with your friend because you kind of did a number on her there. Regardless of her involvement with someone else, you clearly took a moment to think of her feelings and then disregarded them anyway.

On the subject of her involvement, you as her friend have a duty to try and help guide her along the right path. If she has feelings for somebody else, then she shouldn't be with the poor lad she is currently with as it's not healthy for either of them.

As for the fella you like, I would suggest that you forget him. Let's be honest, he was willing to take you to his room on the basis that "you're an attractive girl". That demonstrates his total lack of respect for you as a person and suggests that he doesn't particularly care about anything other than getting his end away. Add to that, the fact that he fooled around with you despite having feelings for your friend and you have a bit of an immature plum on your hands. Drop him and find someone who respects you enough to take you on a date or buy you some flowers before he tries to get you into bed.

[Amulet]

Wow, well if I was in that situation I would try to stay strong. Even if people start bashing me up for that, if people are insulting you about this situation they're just slut shaming which is common on the internet and reality. The guy you had done some activities with should feel ashamed to take advantage of you since you were drunk even though he was drunk too. When you get your phone back then confront him if you can, but this doesn't mean it was all his fault. I'm not trying to make you feel bad but it was also your fault for drinking and then actually accepting to do it.

Are you allowed access on the outside world? You could possibly meet up with your friend and apologize and all but do not lie or anything, the full honest answer to her is probably needed. Then you could also try going to the guy's house to talk to him. If he doesn't bcome your boyfriend or you guys start dating whatever, then obviously he had took advantage of you big time.

You could also wait it out. Just wait until you get your phone back and then finally contact those two. (Sorry I'm getting off track) But yes you should text him right after you get your phone back, but even better call him up and talk to him! You will need to fix this problem up with him and fix out your relationship with your friend and try to make her happy again rather then upset. But how did you call your friend when your phone was taken? If you have access to a mobile device then use that. But you could use either of these options I've made.
(Though I'm not good at advice and all and this is only my way of looking at it.)

[Ovidiu]

You've surely got yourself into a complete mess, especially with your mother who, seeing you wearing somebody else's shirt, surely realised that you haven't been only drinking...
Anyway, since you all seem to be in boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, yet, having a crush on somebody else, you sound like living during Nero's Roman Empire...
Well, you're young - probably too young, so... you still got time to grow up.