Why is my ex ruining my relationships?

[Jennifer]

My ex boyfriend just ruined a growing relationship. He told him that we are still together, we are not. We haven't been together for a very long time. Now the guy won't talk to me, believe me, or try and work things out. I really care about this guy. What do I do?

[May]

He sounds like a stalker.

[Lilly]

You kick your ex in the nuts that's what you do!

[anonymous]

Somehow contact your current guy. Even if you have to resort to a Facebook message or text message.

Tell him the story behind your ex. When you dated, when you broke up, why you broke up.
Then explain that you're really into the current guy and that it's harsh for him to turn away because of a crazy ex.

[prapradeliko]

Grow up and get to know who you are . Be a leader ,not a follower .Get tough and if new guy now doesn't want to talk to you than he is some schmuck and you shouldn't even be with him.

[john]

People have very similar experiences over a long enough time line. I do not know your age, but I would assume the guy you like has seen this situation before and therefore is choosing to avoid this situation before it turns ugly.

Your ex-boyfriend is clearly not over you.

Step 1 : Explain to your ex-boyfriend as calmly but direct as possible that you appreciate your past time, but that you are over the relationship you two once had. Also, explain to him how he is affecting the potential for your future relationships.

Step 2 : Explain to the guy you like that your ex had unresolved feeling but that you cleared them up and are ready to proceed if he would like to give you another chance.

Step 3a : If he says ok then cheers

Step 3b : If he says no then go to the closest bar and start drinking cheers

[Grace]

You don't deserve the new guy. Your relationship, no matter how old, should be based on trust and if he doesn't believe you, then move on. You also need to talk to your ex and find out what he gains from doing this

[John Mc]

A few suggestions:

1) If you have a Facebook, or, Twitter, or any other social media account...find a way to write in BIG LETTERS for everyone to see that you and he broke up a long time ago, you can't stand him, maybe insult him as much as you possibly can...and then explain the beat-off is trying to sabotage any relationships you have because of his "If I can't have her...NO ONE will." mentality.

2) Talk to the police and see if there isn't something that can be done. If I were you...I'd search my memory for any information I might be able to give them about him (secrets, divulged info, etc.) which might persuade them it's worth their while to help you get rid of the guy once and for all.

3) As per #1...obsessed men like your ex-boyfriend are not uncommon. Every year you'll read about girls/women who have been brutalized, raped, even murdered by these menacing half-wits with a:
"If I can't have YOU...NO ONE will.!!!" mentality.

The ball is in your court....do you want to put him in his place...or not?!