My best friend and me are growing apart?

[Thomas]

My ex-best friend (Lets call her Sarah) started dating this guy and it odd because she only knew him for like a couple days. Anyways, Sarah and me started growing apart and I would point it out, but she would just get angry at me and then we would not talk for a while. But then I find out her boyfriend is a homophobic and I am shocked because she is dating a guy who hates gay people and she doesn't care even though her best friend, me, is gay! So in the end I gave up on her because she would never listen to me and ignore me more and more, but not only that but he boyfriend got upset and had a tantrum when me and her would have fun. (he hated me cause I'm a guy and gay...) She wouldn't talk to him about it or anything because she didn't want to screw up the relationship so instead she screwed our friendship up... That's the end of Sarah and now we hate each others guts...

Now onto my new best friend (Lets call her Lucy)... Lucy and me became super close after Sarah and we talked all night, everyday after school on Facebook and talked lots at school. It seemed like we would be friends for a long time until she starting liking this guy she was friends with. He was nice, but he had a history of playing girls and I was worried... But after a while I thought they were a good couple and it all seemed okay until Lucy started slowly drifting away and not talking to me as much, we even got to the point where she would only walk past and look at me with only a smile! But we still talk online a little but she kept telling me about how he doesn't like how Lucy doesn't talk to him about problems and how she always came to me about stuff even though she was ignoring me most of the time. He didn't hate me or me being gay but hated how close Lucy and me were even though he actually split us up slowly. Lucy's boyfriend said he didn't like her talking to me at all nearly or hanging out and he got upset like Sarah's boyfriend did when Sarah and me hung out. Now this whole friendship with Lucy has turned out nearly like Sarah's and mine but this time I'm trying not to give up but I see no hope at all...

These two friendships were all good at the beginning, but went bad as soon as a boyfriend got involved. I don't minding them having boyfriends but once it starts affecting our friendship then I have a problem. I don't know what to do cause this happen once before with Sarah and now literally a month or two later its happening again with Lucy. Should I just give up and find a new best friend or should I just not get attached to anyone so much at all because I feel like every time I find a best friend it goes bad really quickly after a boyfriend comes along. Or do you think I should keep trying? If there is another option please tell me because I am so confused and upset and scared no matter how hard I try it will keep happening to me over and over... I just want a friend I can rely on and talk to without worrying about how their boyfriend feels etc...
Also! The guy that is dating Lucy I have known for around five years and have been friends with him in the past. He knows I am nice etc but still acts the way he does. I also didn't talk to Lucy for a couple months so he wouldn't feel threatened but even after a couple months she told him she was going to hang with me and he got upset! So trying to make friends with him won't work and giving them space won't work. It's either figure it out somehow or just give up unless anyone has a really good solution?

[Kayleigh]

the boyfriends are clearly jealous of the relationship you have with his girlifriend.. its all about whos the alpha-male type thing in their minds so another guy thats close with his girlfriend (gay or not) will put his back up and he'll get very cautious of you.. i dont know how you would get around this issue as its a very delicate matter because you obviously cant go up to them like "I'm gay i'm not gonna steal her away from you" because that's too blunt and will make the bf even angrier.. I would not give up on being close to people because thats who you are and you shouldnt change that for anyone.. i suggest that you make friends with the boyfriend so he knows that you are a nice guy and you mean well. i hope this helps you a little more

from kaykay xx