Why does he still care for me, but didnt care when he broke my heart?

[Alexis]

My ex and i broke up on our 5month anni (he dumped me). Basicallly b/c we kept getting into these little arguments. Besides the arguing and our differences we both loved one another so much and what we had was insanely fun and sweet. We were also besfriends for 2 and a half yrs. 3 days before our breakup, we got into it. The next morning, he sent me a txt saying how much he loves me ,that he doesnt want to lose me, and wants to continue on with what we have. I felt the same way of course. But then he turned aroud on our anniversay saying that he doesnt feel it in his heart anymore cause we keep arguing and its hurting us both, and I should just be on my own. Devastating it was cause, I honestly felt that we were going to make it, but I found the strength to accept and forgive him. About a week later,he got with someone else and that brought more wounds for me. Yesterday, i was on twitter and i post a tweet that was very upsetting. Unfourtunately it linked to my fb timeline. My ex sent me a msg on fb and a txt asking if I was okay. I didn't respond. Then he kept texting me asking the same thing 15mins later. I still didn't respond. I wasn't trying to be rude or childish, but I was still hurt from our break up. He also wants us to be bestfriends from before our relationship, but for some sad reason, I just don't want to cause I'm still very much in love with him He says that he'll always be there and care for me always like before and he told me that if something bad were to happen to me he swear that he'd lose his mind and wouldnt know what to, but my heart won't seem to take his word. But, I don't want to talk to him for awhile at least till Im completely healed from our breakup and can finally talk to him without feeling a bit emotional. Plus he said that im still part of his family,but i think otherwise ): ? What I don't seem to understand is why does he still care for me if we're not together and why does he still need me around when he has a new GF already?

[Maya]

You both sound young. If you're able to stop all contact with him to heal yourself, then do so! That's awesome if you really can do something like that. Just as you loved and cared for him, he has the same feelings for you. Men can fall in love with a woman a million times harder than they'd like to show or tell anyone. (Lets not play guys, you know it's true)... He wants to keep in contact with you in case things might not work out with his new girlfriend... If you're ok with you two remaining friends, then give yourself the time to heal and let him know you're ok with just staying friends and nothing more. There are a million good guys out there who are waiting to fall in love with someone like you :]

Don't let this guy keep you in control of your emotions by saying you're his "Family" who says that to their ex!

Anyway, everyone you meet in your life will either bring you a message or a lesson. Take this as a lesson and learn. Now you'll be better prepared for your next realtionship, and know what you want.

Good luck!

[Stevie]

He obviously is going to care for you just as a best friend would care for you. You guys have been friends for over 2 years! Even though he has a girlfriend and you may be hurt at the moment, that doesn't mean he doesn't like you. If you completely trust what he is saying I would try to still be friends with him, but nothing more. most likely, the 2 reasons he needs you around (even though he has a girlfriend) are because he wants more attention OR he truly cares about and misses the friendship you two shared. Always remember, that you create your own happiness. You being happy doesnt rely on somebody else, you are in control!