Relationship Advice. I need help.?

[Luis Gallo]

So I guess to really start this off I need to go back in time. My girlfriend and I of 5 years have been together since our freshmen year of high school (now we're sophmores in college). We've done everything together and are connected in so many ways. Believe me when I say that I really care about this girl and want nothing but to be with her and possibly marry her.

So about early 2010 we both get a job at our local grocery store. We make friends there, everything's great and we were all happy. So this last december I left to go on vacation for about 3 weeks, everything's a lot more expensive in the country I was going so I wasn't going to be able to talk to her as much. We still however talked through facebook as much as I could and even exchanged phone calls. Before I left though a new guy started at my grocery store. He had transferred to my store since he had moved. So I guess when I was gone our co-workers plus the new guy plus my girlfriend all started to hang out. She would tell me they would all go bowling and have fun and this was a good way for her to be distracted so she wouldn't be so sad that I was gone. While all of this is going on, she's i guess starting a friendship with this new guy. He told her that he was having his own girlfriend issues and he needed advice, so they started texting one another.

I got back home from vacation and they were still texting one another. Now after knowing a person for so long you would notice when they're not acting like they usually would. Whatever we would do she would be constantly on her phone texting and texting. I tried asking her about it but I didn't want to come off as pushy or this over protective boyfriend. So I would kind of shrug it off. Eventually though I noticed that she liked him. Sometimes when we would have alone time (which normally she would enjoy) she opted to go see a movie with our co-workers (the guy was there too) I knew him too and he was always a nice guy but something just didn't seem right about him.

Last night though I got a text from her saying that she didn't feel well. I immediately called to see what was wrong and she sprung this on me.

" I think I have feelings for two people."

She tells me she doesn't want to hurt his feelings but she doesn't want to hurt mine either. If she could she tells me that she would want to be with both of us. Which just sounds asinine to me. She tells me nothing happened between them both and I trust her but she tells me she doesn't know what to do. And thats just throwing me red flags cause i feel like shes considering him. I know he's been a good friend to her and has done nothing wrong. I'm so confused and so stressed, I dont know what to do. I knew advice. Thanks guys

[MM]

Tell her you wish you'd spoken up sooner, because you're not entirely surprised, even though you are upset and disappointed. But wishing she could have you both or that someone doesn't have to get hurt isn't possible, and she's going to have to make a choice. If she does want to fix things with you, then she needs to break off all contact with him outside of what's absolutely necessary for her job, and work with you to figure out how this happened and what you weren't providing her that he was so that it doesn't happen again. If she's not willing to do that, then unfortunately, as much as you don't want to let her go, you're going to have to.